Friday, January 23, 2015

Reflections

As I sit here, contemplating the events of the last three months, I am both humbled and grateful. First, we were blessed with a perfect baby boy. Second, we were blessed to be his parents for 5 whole months. And third, we have been sealed to him for time and all eternity through our temple marriage. 


Oct. 21, 2011
Logan Utah LDS Temple

Oct. 21, 2011
First picture as Mr. & Mrs. 

I have never been more grateful for the upbringing my parents gave me, in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I am so grateful for my temple marriage and sealing to my amazing husband. He is so good to me, even when I don't feel I deserve it. He honors his priesthood and it is because of him that I am where I am today. 


My parents are amazing! I love you both so much! Thank you for all of your support and love the past 25 years!

If you had told me four years ago that I would be where I am now, I would have called you crazy. But, I would not have it any other way. 
In the last four years, since my husband and I met, life has been wonderful! We started dating on May 3, 2011 and were married by October 21, 2011. It has been so wonderful to be married to my best friend! We had a beautiful son on May 23, 2014 and he loved life! Despite all of his struggles and trials in his short 5 months. And now, only three months after Charles went back home to Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ, we have a house and two dogs.



Silver(left) and Shadow(right) getting ready for bath time! 

Life moves at a fast pace and it doesn't stop just because tragedy strikes. We had to get back into a 'normal' routine. At least a 'new normal' routine. We didn't intend to look for and purchase a home so quickly. The house became available just a few days after Charles passed away. When Cody and I walked in we knew we had to make an offer. It felt like home. It felt right. So we made an offer and it was accepted. We narrowly outbid another couple for the house! Our Realtor was amazing! We could not have done it without Lois supporting us the whole way through the long and tedious process!  


Our new home in Washington Terrace Utah! We love it!


Since we bought the house, we have been hard at work. It has been gutted for the most part and we are updating the plumbing in the bathroom and the kitchen. The whole upstairs had carpet and that is now gone. We have hard wood underneath the carpet and we will be staining it. The bathroom had carpet as well... Needless to say it is gone! Oh my it smelled so awful!! The kitchen had the weirdest combination of metal and wood cabinets... Those are in the process of being taken out. We are planning on slowly finishing the upstairs and making it our home. We are so excited for this next chapter in our lives! 

We miss our sweet Charles more than words could ever accurately describe. There is not a day that goes by where we do not think of him and ache for him to be back in our arms. Without the dedication of everyone involved in taking care of Charles and all of his medical needs, he would have left us many months before he did. We had the best neurosurgeons and nurses at Primary Children's taking care of him! There are so many who took care of him to name! But just a few of his nurses that we love so much are Brittany, Sadie, Mindi and Jonathan! We love you all so much! Without you I would have lost my sanity months before we lost Charles. The wonderful Rainbow Kids crew at PCMC was such a huge help for us as we struggled to make decisions about what to do next to help Charles. Without them I probably would have strangled a few doctors... So thank you to the whole team! Without you life would have been much harder with all those months in the hospital. Our home health nurses were amazing! We love them and miss having them in our home. We will have to have you all over for a BBQ to celebrate Charles' first birthday I think! These are just a few of the people who have been so influential in helping us through this past year. We love you all like family! 

This little handsome bug is the reason part of my heart lives in heaven! I miss his smiling face, trusting eyes, and his bubble blowing mouth! Every time I walked in the room he had the biggest lopsided grin to give me! I miss seeing the love in his eyes more than anything. I miss him gripping me as tight as he could with his tiny little hands. He was the happiest little baby and he suffered so much in his short time here on Earth. OH how I look forward to the day that I get to see his beautiful face again! I am so grateful that he is no longer suffering. But I am so sad to be separated from him. Even for a short while. These last three months have been so full of sadness, despair, hope, love and laughter. Without the knowledge of the gospel, I would be a mess that could never get out of bed. I know that Charles is looking out for me and watching over and protecting me. I love you my little bug! Just remember mommy loves you so much! 

Charlyse Wilson